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So after a solid week of running backups on the site to make sure I didn't screw anything up (the site is so big now that backing it up alone is an endeavor), I went in a flushed the database and rebuilt it. Something went horribly wrong and since we rely so heavily on mods for this software, figuring out what is causing it is nightmarish in scope. Long story short (too late), the site is back up and running (i think). (edit: And judging from still not being able to upload images...there is still a ways to go.)

This was a long outage and I apologize... Life has not been... great... lately and to be perfectly honest, this site was the last thing on my mind. I have logged in once or twice over the last few weeks, felt completely disconnected and overwhelmed and literally turned it right back off.

I'm sure none of you want to hear the sob story, but it has been one emotionally devastating thing after another for almost three solid months now. Looking back, any individual piece of the this year's shitstorm is enough to knock the wind out of me, but it feels like life right now just won't let me catch my breath. This isn't a punch in the stomach, this is emotionally going up against Holly Holm and to be honest, it's all I can do right now to just keep getting up.

This is sounding more sad-sack than I care for, so we'll leave it there.

I have some time... if i can get myself motivated, I'm going to dig in and try to solve some issues around here. Thanks to everyone for being patient, loving and awesome... and if anyone wants to help me research possible solutions to the image upload problem, I will be happy for the help and/or suggestions.

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Irina Chuikova's picture

Thanks Boss'Lissa! For everything!

Kisses!

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Tiisha's picture

You are awesome Miss Melissa. You can 4pm me anytime. My shoulders are soft and my ears are open, anytime you need it.

Tisha XOXO

Im_Anastasia's picture

You're an amazing and strong woman cared for by many.

ALL of us understand RL comes first, and many of us I'm sure can share the burden of site woes. (I'm far to dumb to be one of them)

We love you!

SteffyDD's picture

Melissa:

Besides all, you are a very evocative, skilled writer.

Things sound very trying.

I’m willing to err on the serious side of interpreting your post and suggest that one is more forlorn when trying to bear up with emotional burdens on your own, without others.

I don’t know any details nor am I asking for any. But I would say get the support you need. Be that a call (or more to a friend) all the way to seeing an impartial third party professional.

Wishing you that next sunrise, starting to energize and renew you.

As always, very much appreciate your efforts.

Steffy

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Jacqueline's picture

Hi Melissa.
I'm really sorry to hear that life is being unkind and less than rosy for you. I hope the real life things improve soon.
Thank you very much for taking the time and expending the effort for us. We know who is responsible for our enjoyment of the site.
Love you
Jacqueline

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Erica Jo's picture

Melissa,

Have a hug. They do wonders.

{{{{{Melissa}}}}}

Fondly,
Erica

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Emma Peel's picture

Melissa, I know the kind of crap that Life®© can throw at us and I would be there for you if I could. Please consider yourself hugged by me, I don't mind waiting until Erica Jo has released you.

Thank you for taking the time to get the login working again, but please take enough time for yourself. Sh*tstorms really take it out of you, and you deserve to get your life together without worrying about us. We'll muddle through until you can face coming home to us.

Don't forget, when you are deep in a hole looking up, some bastard will always steal your ladder! ;-)

Love
Emma
OXO

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I am sorry to hear about your troubles, Melissa. I don't know, nor should I know, exactly what they are, but wishing you love and thanks for your efforts for this site.

From
Mechelle

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VeronicaPowers's picture

Melissa

Thank you for everything you do for us. We all appreciate it.

Hugs,
Nica

Amanda Wells's picture

THANKS MELISSA FOR TAKING CARE OF US.

I wish I could find the colour,
That distances you from sadness and melancholy,
That will return you to your dreams and joy for life.

A very vivid colour as your struggle to win,
And strong for the triumph that you have to obtain,
A beautiful rainbow of fresh colours.

That makes you breathe without so many fears,
It will be a long road, which will make you uphill,
But when you realize you'll be at the top,
And you can look at the world and enjoy life,
You will have won!

And if you find yourself alone or tired, can count with me. If i can help you in something, i'll give my best efforts to do it.

Big hugs!

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subsophie's picture

Hey Melissa,

I'm not so savvy on the emotional support end of things, but tech support I can usually manage. I mangle databases for a living these days and even support some ancient PHP apps. My Drupal knowledge is a bit sketchy, but I suspect I can muddle through it.

Only problem is I'm also insanely pressed for time right now, preparing to sell/move houses. As long as you can work with a slow response time on my end I'll see what I can do.

--sophie

debutante's picture

Sorry to hear about real life delivering you punches instead of hugs. I know, to a certain degree, how it can all hit at once.

Thanks for looking in on us and despite your own difficulties, trying to help us out. I want you to know how much your efforts are appreciated.....more now than ever.

Hang in there.....A hug from me to be added with all the others.

xoxo Debbie

Alison Anderson's picture

I too can only say I'm sorry you are having such a bad time. I also offer my virtual hugs, but I know they are nothing like the real thing. It makes us really really appreciate the effort you put in to rebuild the database.

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Innocence's picture

So much love. Heart goes out to you. Much, much love.

Irina Chuikova's picture

Thanks Again!

I figure you fixed the second one too!

((Hugs))

Miss Irina

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flooberdoober101's picture

Thanks Melissa. A girl doesn't realize how important this place is until it's gone for a few days. We really appreciate you efforts to keep this place going for everyone.

Hugs,

Jenny

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Misty's picture

Always so lovely to hear from you Lissa ,Great job in geting things together (thumbs up )

I'm sure none of you want to hear the sob story, but it has been one emotionally devastating thing after another for almost three solid months now. Looking back, any individual piece of the this year's shitstorm is enough to knock the wind out of me, but it feels like life right now just won't let me catch my breath. This isn't a punch in the stomach, this is emotionally going up against Holly Holm and to be honest, it's all I can do right now to just keep getting up.

Im so terribly sorry to read this Lissa dear (sad face ) welkome to last 45 years of my R (starting RIGHT from birth ) (sigh ) i know this might not be a comfort BUT take it from a old EXPERIENCED shit creaked NEVER ending rolercoaster rider

" DONT GIVE UP on youre dreams Lissa dear and NEVER stop fighting to achieve them REGARDLESS how steep up hill there is because its THAT way that HELPS you find the strength within you that you dident know you had and SOMEHOW SOMEDAY you WILL make it towards youre goals ,its just a matter of finding away to endure the seamless endless struggle to get there "

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Charlotte Neal's picture

The technical stuff is beyond me, but thank you for all the work, Melissa, Mistress of Awesome!

Emma Peel's picture

Ladies and erm... ladies, I would like to dedicate a song to our dear webmistress.

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Sonja Becker's picture

Site's doing alot better thanks to your special brand of tender loving care. Images seem to work now too!
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Emma Peel's picture

Oh thank you nurse. I'm sure your tender ministrations will work wonders. If not just give her that injection! *giggle*
Nice uniform Miss Sonja

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Sonja Becker's picture

Oh snap, turns out she may have been talking about caption uploads. I just tried and failed there. Pass the needles and stick the server with more medicine! :P

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Thank you so much. We all love you for this place. Tracyann

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Jessicafox's picture

Thank you Melissa for sorting things out and also for creating this wounderfull place .

so sorry your having problems right now

Huggs

Jessica

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I'm not super familiar with Drupal (or at least, not the newer versions), nor am I a whiz with PHP (Ruby on Rails is kind of my jam), so I don't know how much help I could be. Honestly, I'd be more familiar with the SQL side of things. I could still pitch in a little bit of help in my spare time if you need another set of eyes or whatever (just please, for the love of all that is holy, don't tear my eyes out :P ). I could even look at the SQL side of things, since I'd likely be more familiar with that.

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Sonja Becker's picture

...it feels like life right now just won't let me catch my breath. This isn't a punch in the stomach, this is emotionally going up against Holly Holm and to be honest, it's all I can do right now to just keep getting up.

I know what you mean, it's been like that for me too. All my hopes and my very best. Here's to hoping we're like Miesha Tate (my fav. MMA girl), who choked the crap out of Holly :P

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