Yesterday we had a spammer stumble into our site and post in a bunch of places. The posts involved some general spam, and also included a picture of a young looking girl. These posts were reported immediately to the mods and (being awesome) they solved the problem. Yay for the community! Yay for the mods! Yay!
It is always nice when these type of situations occur and they are handled in the correct and efficient manner.
While this was being handled, however, a disturbance in the force occurred. The general chat room erupted into, for lack of a better term, a 'shitstorm'. The argument centered on people being upset about the photo of the young girl and how it violated the terms of the site. Being an argument, in an instantaneous chat setting, it escalated... and in doing so another site rule was broken. I will quote for review sake:
Respect the other members of the site. Statements made that are inflammatory, rude or intentionally hurtful will not be allowed here. We support free speech and freedom of opinion, but please do so in a civil manner.
I cannot emphasize enough how IMPORTANT this rule is, both to myself and to the site as a whole. S&M and B&D (both of which are core elements of this site) rely... nay, DEPEND... on being open, honest and of mutual respect.
We live in a world that is growing increasingly negative, hostile and inflammatory. I am not naive enough to hope that this will not occasionally trickle it's way into our little haven here. What I ask of all of you, however, is to help me put the lid on this type of thing the instant it begins to happen.
"But I will not just stand by and be attacked or see my friends attacked" you cry, stamping your feet and throwing your fist in the air.
Believe me... I get it. Yet by engaging people that are being inflammatory or hostile, you give them agency and legitimacy.
To keep this site civil, all it takes is to report them and then IGNORE...
We know this. We know this is how to deal with this type of things online. We also all know that it is HARD to ignore.
So my plea is this: help each other. If you find yourself in one of these situations, try to step back and as you do... help your friends step back too. And tell the moderators and myself of the problem. I know it doesn't give you the immediate gratification of 'haha - I'm proving my point' that we all want and never get in internet arguments... but what it DOES do, is it keeps this place as a haven in the shitstorm tsunami we all live in these days.
Strip away all the other trappings of this site and our goal ultimately boils down to... (and you can take it either sexually or spiritually)... Love yourself and love each other.
*cue music* The more you know...